Asperger's Syndrome's Blurty

Posted by:	rena_is_me.
Time:	5:51 pm.

Rex has a serious mental problem, he can not control his behaviour or concentration. It has woren us down, taking up all the conflicts, his school can not give him the time he needs so something postive has to happen.

Well Robby and I have been out to Brundhøj childrens home and it looks really great. There are room for 16 other children in Rex's position. I think Rex will be happy here and we can come visit him during the week and he comes home every second weekend. He will be surrounded by people whom understand these childrens mental problems. We are buying him a little stereo to take with him and he is allowed to hang as many posters and stuff up on the walls as he cares to..

They receive all the heavy subjects in school in the morning and in the afternoon they get to do all the fun stuff like wood work, art, music, swimming, dirt bikes etc and stuff after lunch.... The place looks like a home and I got to see how their bedrooms look. We are allowed to be there the day durning the week to eat a meal with him, tell a bed time story and put him to bed which is great.

When Rex comes home on Sunday we have monday to talk about the place, before we take him out on tuesday to visit where he will be staying the next 6 months of his life. We will be called every time there are problems with Rex and will be at meetings to decide the future etc.... He will be moving out there at the end of summer holidays...

All in all a more positive day than I thought. I will miss him and I feel a feeling of dread in my stomach as I write this..... But I want him to be able to have a life he can live with in the future.. I do not want him to became a angry man with a uncontrolable temper whom punches his girlfriend, wife or just someone he has a arguement with..... Now is the time to find where he is and change his pattern of behaviour. We really want to know how we can reach into him so he listens instead of retracting into his own little world or exploding...

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Posted by:	rena_is_me.
Time:	6:21 pm.

Hi! I have a son whom has just been mentally examined. He has quite a few syptoms of aspergers syndom. I have known he was not like other kids since he was three years old. We have had to wait 5 hard years for our childrens social welfare officers to take us seriously. What helped the most, was the small private school our sons go in. They could see his behaviour and backed us up getting help. My husband son and I have been visiting the childrens ward at the nearest mental hospital the past 2 months while they examine our son. This involves us answering questions, and our son doing some tests to see how he functions.
I do not know how long we can have him at home, but we are not giving up without a fight. I am just relieved to know there is a brain damage and it is not me as a parent.... We are not finished with the examinations, we have more meetings to learn how we can give him the best life possible...

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Posted by:	blackcoffee.
Time:	5:45 pm.
Music:	Catch 22 - As The Footsteps Die Out Forever.

Hmm. Here I am writing in here. Well, I grew up with this guy, Sam. Eventually we fell in love, inasmuchas that was possible at the ripe old age of 14 when that occured, but we've been fucking around ever since. Anyway, when we were kids he was always distant and he didn't like authority at all. They were always trying to diagnose him with something so that they could medicate him and ignore his personality. The most recent diagnosis, and teh one that seems to have stuck, is Asperger's syndrome.
I'm still not sure if he's really got this syndrome. Sometimes I think it's just him, you know? How can you prove that he shouldn't be the way he is? What way is he? I couldn't even begin to explain. But I had a long conversation about love with him last night. Here's a quote from him: " My ability to appreciate and feel emotion I can't rationalize or accept, for one, and my ethical issues with subjecting someone to some kind of commitment where there's a possibility of being unable to reciprocate aforementioned emotion in the way that is traditionally accepted." (in response to my asking what issues there were with him falling in love.) And it just sort of depresses me that this guy I care about so much, will never really understand what I feel when I love. Or if he will, he won't appreciate it. Me, I get off on love, and I can't imagine not being like that. He's so unhappy all the time, just sort of restless. Endlessly bored, and apathetic. And I'm like that for the most part, except when I'm in love.

Yeah I don't really feel like writing this. But that's my relating to aspergers. I read up on it a lot when he and I were really really close (ie, when I was in love with him). And.. I dunno. Yeah. The end.

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